(my pumpkin, 2008)so i received a text saturday morning 1 a.m. that drunkenly informed me that a) my boyfriend wasn't happy and b) our romantic relationship was at an end. it also said i was awesome and that i was loved, twice.
now, before anyone pities, set-up is needed.
jason and i were together a few years ago, when, after a simple blood test, it was discovered i was infected with a zombie-mutagen government conspiracy (hereafter known as HIV) and jason, by some nasty grace, was not.
we continued to date for a while, but honestly, i needed time to come to terms with some things and he really did too, so we ended it. badly. and didn't speak for a couple of years.
then:
we hooked back up. out of the blue, like nothing ever happened, except we had gotten our individual shit in some sort of order. and we've been dating a little more than a year now, i think, as time really carries on without us.
but we've both become a little passive-aggressive to each other lately, him with a new job and hardly any time, me with my working-6-days/week, trying to organize a date night is ridiculous and what little time either of us has after work is also spent on our own family/friends/bowling/pajiba :)
after talking for just a moment, we just decided quite simply to just hang whenever, without all the pressure.
and tonight i went by for just a couple of hours, watched trick r treat, and had a good time. we were both in good spirits.
Ummmmm. What to say. Have you seen "Angels in America?" It was a fantastic series. A series that made me say that if honestly I loved someone, I wouldn't care if they had a disease. I hope you the best. Really.
ReplyDeletei remember not being able to stomach "angels in america" at the time. i think i got through the 1st hour before abandoning it to a watercolor i was working on. but that's more a commentary on me at the time than the actual 'event'.
ReplyDeletebut it's nice of you to say. really though, that part of the equation wasn't a factor this time. we had both dealt with the magnetic aspect (positive/negative). nope, this time was all about regaining a lost sense of friendship. neither of us is broken up i don't think. we're pretty chill to begin with.
It's good to know that things are amicable. It doesn't happen often but when it does, you can have a lifelong friend.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter just split up with her first actual girlfriend and she's dealing with the stress so I think I'll point her in the direction of your blog for a bit of inspiration, sir.
Good luck to you, no matter what happens.
Well then, let the hetero/homo stalkfest begin.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like this could have been a lot worse. Breaking up sucks, but I agree with spender - I know a ton of people who have broken up with eachother amicably and still spend a lot of quality time together as friends. Sometimes it's just the right thing for the place you are in life.
ReplyDeleteBut breaking up via text message just SUCKS. Glad you could hang out and have a good time. I'd be cranky as shit about that.
the text was just because he'd had a long week and went drinking and was too tempted to. he isn't normally so melodramatic so i understood where he was coming from.
ReplyDeletealso, as he is the ONLY person i have ever taken back after splitting for whatever reason, i think we'd both been here before and knew how to go about it.
and jon, about your daughter, dude, breaking up with your first gay partner fucking sucks. at least, it was for me. you don't realize how hetero-centric the world is, when all you know about relationships are your parents' example or leading man/leading woman bs. breaking up with her first girlfriend has to be rough. lesbian protocols freak me out anyway. with dudes, it's gotta be easier.
and i love how admin automatically thinks i'm going to want him more now than i did before.
wait, what?
Being able to break up and stay friends is one of the coolest things in the world.
ReplyDeletePlus, you still have us.